Alone

Author: Bella M.. DePaulo
Publisher: Createspace Independent Publishing Platform
ISBN: 9781978362277
Format: PDF, Docs
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Collection of more than 60 articles published in places such as Psychology Today, Psych Central, and the Washington Post.

How We Live Now

Author: Bella DePaulo
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
ISBN: 1582704791
Format: PDF, Kindle
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A close-up examination and exploration, How We Live Now challenges our old concepts of what it means to be a family and have a home, opening the door to the many diverse and thriving experiments of living in twenty-first century America. Across America and around the world, in cities and suburbs and small towns, people from all walks of life are redefining our “lifespaces”—the way we live and who we live with. The traditional nuclear family in their single-family home on a suburban lot has lost its place of prominence in contemporary life. Today, Americans have more choices than ever before in creating new ways to live and meet their personal needs and desires. Social scientist, researcher, and writer Bella DePaulo has traveled across America to interview people experimenting with the paradigm of how we live. In How We Live Now, she explores everything from multi-generational homes to cohousing communities where one’s “family” is made up of friends and neighbors to couples “living apart together” to single-living, and ultimately uncovers a pioneering landscape for living that throws the old blueprint out the window. Through personal interviews and stories, media accounts, and in-depth research, How We Live Now explores thriving lifespaces, and offers the reader choices that are freer, more diverse, and more attuned to our modern needs for the twenty-first century and beyond.

Singled Out

Author: Bella DePaulo, Ph.D.
Publisher: St. Martin's Press
ISBN: 1466800526
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People who are single are changing the face of America. Did you know that: * More than 40 percent of the nation's adults---over 87 million people---are divorced, widowed, or have always been single. * There are more households comprised of single people living alone than of married parents and their children. * Americans now spend more of their adult years single than married. Many of today's single people have engaging jobs, homes that they own, and a network of friends. This is not the 1950s---singles can have sex without marrying, and they can raise smart, successful, and happy children. It should be a great time to be single. Yet too often single people are still asked to defend their single status by an onslaught of judgmental peers and fretful relatives. Prominent people in politics, the popular press, and the intelligentsia have all taken turns peddling myths about marriage and singlehood. Marry, they promise, and you will live a long, happy, and healthy life, and you will never be lonely again. Drawing from decades of scientific research and stacks of stories from the front lines of singlehood, Bella DePaulo debunks the myths of singledom---and shows that just about everything you've heard about the benefits of getting married and the perils of staying single are grossly exaggerated or just plain wrong. Although singles are singled out for unfair treatment by the workplace, the marketplace, and the federal tax structure, they are not simply victims of this singlism. Single people really are living happily ever after. Filled with bracing bursts of truth and dazzling dashes of humor, Singled Out is a spirited and provocative read for the single, the married, and everyone in between. You will never think about singlehood or marriage the same way again. Singled Out debunks the Ten Myths of Singlehood, including: Myth #1: The Wonder of Couples: Marrieds know best. Myth #3: The Dark Aura of Singlehood: You are miserable and lonely and your life is tragic. Myth #5: Attention, Single Women: Your work won't love you back and your eggs will dry up. Also, you don't get any and you're promiscuous. Myth #6: Attention, Single Men: You are horny, slovenly, and irresponsible, and you are the scary criminals. Or you are sexy, fastidious, frivolous, and gay. Myth #7: Attention, Single Parents: Your kids are doomed. Myth #9: Poor Soul: You will grow old alone and you will die in a room by yourself where no one will find you for weeks. Myth #10: Family Values: Let's give all of the perks, benefits, gifts, and cash to couples and call it family values. "With elegant analysis, wonderfully detailed examples, and clear and witty prose, DePaulo lays out the many, often subtle denigrations and discriminations faced by single adults in the U.S. She addresses, too, the resilience of single women and men in the face of such singlism. A must-read for all single adults, their friends and families, as well as social scientists and policy advocates." ---E. Kay Trimberger, author of The New Single Woman

Going Solo The Extraordinary Rise and Surprising Appeal of Living Alone

Author: Eric Klinenberg
Publisher: Gerald Duckworth & Co
ISBN: 0715645986
Format: PDF
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In 1950, only 22% of adults were single. Today, more than 50% of adults are. Eric Klinenberg explores the dramatic rise of solo living, and the seismic impact it's having on our culture, business and politics. Though conventional wisdom tells us that living by oneself leads to loneliness and isolation, most 'solo dwellers', compared with their married counterparts, are more likely to eat out and exercise, sign up for art and music classes, attend public events and lectures, and volunteer. Drawing on over three hundred in-depth interviews with men and women of all ages and every class, Klinenberg reaches some startling conclusions. With eye-opening statistics, original data and vivid portraits of people who go it alone, Going Solo upends common preconceptions to provide the definitive take on the rise of this major trend and how it is transforming modern society.

The Best of Single Life

Author: Bella DePaulo
Publisher: CreateSpace
ISBN: 9781502332561
Format: PDF, Docs
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Bella DePaulo (Ph.D, Harvard) has been writing about single life for well over a decade, beginning with her myth-shattering book, "Singled Out: How Singles Are Stereotyped, Stigmatized, and Ignored, and Still Live Happily Ever After." This collection includes some of her most popular and empowering writings from her "Living Single" blog at Psychology Today as well as other articles readers have loved. The book includes 8 sections:1. Why Singles Are Thriving - Despite All You've Heard to the Contrary2. Single Life: We Chose It3. Mocking Those 'Why Are You Single' Lists4. The Good Life and the Successful Life5. Savoring Our Solitude: Choosing to Spend Time Alone6. Valuing Our Relationships: Choosing to Spend Time with Others7. Sex and the Single Person: Have It Your Way - or Just Skip It8. Are We Missing Out by Being Single - or Are They? Among the 65 articles in the book are:* 7 secrets of successful single people* Who wrote the book of love? Happy single people* Fear not: The advantages of people unafraid to be single* Are single people more resilient than everyone else?* Why aren't married people any happier than singles? A Nobel Prize winner's answer* Wedding porn doesn't turn us on: Age at first marriage has never been higher* The last 'why are you single' list you will ever need* Elements of the good life: Our list is too short* Sweet solitude: The benefits it brings and the special strengths of the people who enjoy it* The happy loner* Best things about living alone - for people who mean it* Single, no children: Who's your family?* If you are single, will you grow old alone? Results from 6 nations* Who keeps siblings together when they become adults? * Bigger, broader meanings of love and romance* Getting married and getting sex (or not)* Asexuals: Who are they and why are they important? * Are monogamous relationships really better?* 23 ways singles are better* What you miss by doing what everyone else does* Top 8 reasons not to marry* Keeping marriage alive with affairs, asexuality, polyamory, and living apart* How many married people wish they were single?* The end of marriage

Singlism

Author: Bella Depaulo Phd
Publisher: Doubledoor Books
ISBN: 9780615486789
Format: PDF, Mobi
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A social psychologist examines the widespread cultural bias against unmarried adults, debunks commonly held myths about singlehood, and challenges the financial, social, economic, and other discrimination that single adults confront.

Living Alone

Author: Peter Mulraney
Publisher: Peter Mulraney
ISBN: 0992426995
Format: PDF, Mobi
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Living alone following the end of a long-term relationship? This book is for you. Living on your own, after having shared your life with someone else for a long time, can be challenging. Not only do you have to look after yourself physically, you also need to face the demons of boredom and loneliness. In Living Alone, you’ll find all the content from the three books in the Living Alone series: After She’s Gone Cooking4One Sanity Savers After reading Living Alone, you’ll have all the information you need to look after yourself physically, mentally and emotionally. Not only will you find out how easy it is to cook for yourself, you’ll also discover seven boredom-busting strategies for using your alone time, each illustrated with numerous tips. You will also find two strategies for avoiding loneliness, which highlight the value of committing to personal growth and engaging with others. Living Alone is a reminder that being on your own does not mean you have to stay home alone. Be kind to yourself - buy a copy today!

The Psychology of Dexter

Author: Bella DePaulo
Publisher: BenBella Books, Inc.
ISBN: 1935618334
Format: PDF, ePub
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Aimed at Dexter devotees and armchair psychologists, The Psychology of Dexter takes on the psychological complexities of the popular series with an eye towards insight and accessibility. It analyzes not just the title character, but his family, coworkers, and even his viewers. What makes Dexter tick? And what makes a show about a serial killer so appealing to those of us at home? From the implications of faking normalcy (could it be behind Dexter’s still-in-progress emotional growth?) to where the show weighs in on the psychological debate between nature and nurture, The Psychology of Dexter gives fans a peek inside Dexter’s—and Dexter’s—psyche.

How to Be Alone

Author: Lane Moore
Publisher: Atria Books
ISBN: 1501178830
Format: PDF, Kindle
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The former Sex & Relationships Editor for Cosmopolitan and host of the wildly popular comedy show Tinder Live with Lane Moore presents her poignant, funny, and deeply moving first book. Lane Moore is a rare performer who is as impressive onstage—whether hosting her iconic show Tinder Live or being the enigmatic front woman of It Was Romance—as she is on the page, as both a former writer for The Onion and an award-winning sex and relationships editor for Cosmopolitan. But her story has had its obstacles, including being her own parent, living in her car as a teenager, and moving to New York City to pursue her dreams. Through it all, she looked to movies, TV, and music as the family and support systems she never had. From spending the holidays alone to having better “stranger luck” than with those closest to her to feeling like the last hopeless romantic on earth, Lane reveals her powerful and entertaining journey in all its candor, anxiety, and ultimate acceptance—with humor always her bolstering force and greatest gift. How to Be Alone is a must-read for anyone whose childhood still feels unresolved, who spends more time pretending to have friends online than feeling close to anyone in real life, who tries to have genuine, deep conversations in a roomful of people who would rather you not. Above all, it’s a book for anyone who desperately wants to feel less alone and a little more connected through reading her words.

Party of One

Author: Anneli Rufus
Publisher: Da Capo Lifelong Books
ISBN: 9781569245132
Format: PDF, Kindle
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The Buddha. Rene Descartes. Emily Dickinson. Greta Garbo. Bobby Fischer. J. D. Salinger: Loners, all—along with as many as 25 percent of the world's population. Loners keep to themselves, and like it that way. Yet in the press, in films, in folklore, and nearly everywhere one looks, loners are tagged as losers and psychopaths, perverts and pity cases, ogres and mad bombers, elitists and wicked witches. Too often, loners buy into those messages and strive to change, making themselves miserable in the process by hiding their true nature—and hiding from it. Loners as a group deserve to be reassessed—to claim their rightful place, rather than be perceived as damaged goods that need to be "fixed." In Party of One Anneli Rufus -- a prize-winning, critically acclaimed writer with talent to burn -- has crafted a morally urgent, historically compelling tour de force—a long-overdue argument in defense of the loner, then and now. Marshalling a polymath's easy erudition to make her case, assembling evidence from every conceivable arena of culture as well as interviews with experts and loners worldwide and her own acutely calibrated analysis, Rufus rebuts the prevailing notion that aloneness is indistinguishable from loneliness, the fallacy that all of those who are alone don't want to be, and wouldn't be, if only they knew how.